Blog 5:Happiness in Relationships

                                      Core Self
What is core self? It is everything that makes you who you are. This includes the negative and postive things. We should get to know ourselves before we expect someone to do it. This is sometimes the problem in relationships. The person may act one way in the beginning and their partner loves them now. The person may feel like they can never be their core self around their partner. His partner may have fallen for all his postive qualities, this is alot of pressure to be this picture perfect boyfriend. He does not want to seem like a screw up, so he has to pretend this is who he really is. Everyone is not perfect, so why should you have to act like you are with someone you love. That person should love you for your postive and negative qualities. In fact this can lead to the relationship failing. I believe that when a person is in a commited relationship, they should know that their will be ups and downs. The question is are you going to love your partner when he or she is down or shows that side of themselves you dont like?


                                                 Love & Sacrifice
When a person says "I love you" and "I will do anything for you". Do they mean it? I think this is true sometimes. People also have their own view on sacrificing for the sake of their relationship. Most of the time women think that if they take a week off from work to help their husband accomplish his goal is sacrifice. It is not sacrifice. Dont get me wrong, thats very nice of you. Sacrifice is when you give up what you love because it will benefit your relationship. For example, a women works at a law firm and she enjoys your career. Her fiance gets a job offer that will pay him twice as much compare to his present salary. The job is in England. This women will leave her career,friend,family just to be with the one she loves. This happens when you very much in love and you to make your partner happy.


                           Meaning & Pleasure in Love
There are two four letter words that people often get the defintion wrong. The words are love and lust. Love is feeling that happens to everyone. Everyone is different so are their feelings when it comes to love. For the most part, love is a mysterious journey full of smooth and bumpy roads. It is a place where you feel the smartest, prettiest, most comfortable, etc. A place to be your core self. Noone is pretending to be a perfect person. The person who knows all your flaws and they can say they love you. Lust is a feeling of being attracted to someone. This attraction may feel like love but it is not. Lust is external, there is no depth. A relationship based on lust will eventually lead to failure. For example, a guy is at the store, he notices a beautiful woman walking in. He says to himself "Im in love". The guy is interested in the woman because of how she looks. The guy and the woman begin to date. There is a physical connection but the couple do not get into details about themselves. All the couple does is rely on their physical attraction to keep the relationship alive. This isnt a good idea because the relationship will not last. Many teenagers get confused with love and lust. I think this occurs because at such a young age, teenagers dont know about this topic. I do not think teenagers are ready for love. They are at the age where they are maturing and they have to understand themselves before they allow someone to define who they are. It is a great feeling to have someone adore you. It is also a great feeling to have someone who is really through through thick and thin.